Parents are often unaware as to how their
unconscious actions and choices affect their children. Children pick up
behaviour and ideas from us. Children have delicate, impressionable minds that
are affected by what they perceive. Whatever we do or say has an impact on
them.
Following these simple positive parenting
tips by the well-known parenting expert of India, Mrs. Sudha Gupta, are deeply
embedded in child empowerment philosophy which aims at bringing up positive
individuals that contribute responsibly to the society.
Spend
time with children everyday
The best tool to improve your child’s
behaviour is to spend time with him. Spend time with him and give positive
attention and form emotional connect with him. If he doesn’t have your
attention he will seek out negative ways to get it, which will not be easy to
correct later. 10-15 minutes of your time is all that you need to spend with
him and see a positive change in him.
Follow
good sleep hygiene
When you are tired you get cranky, and
irritable. The same thing happens with children. A well-rested child is
well-behaved and calm. The best way to find out how much sleep is required for
your child is to consult your family physician about the sleep patterns to be
followed according to the age of your child.
Keep
positive expectations
A child learns what he sees happening
around him. It is like natural law; whatever you focus on, you’ll get it. If he
focuses on your misgivings then that’s what he is going to get. Have positive
expectations from your child, and he will do his/her best to live up to those
expectations. It is about your choices. Positive expectations always bear the
right effects on your child’s behaviour; it brings out the Best in Your Child!
This also proves good the other way round; if you expect your child to disobey
you, don’t be surprised when he/she senses this lack of trust in you and makes
your unexpressed apprehensions come true. The trust your child gets from you is
his true empowerment.
Stick
to positive language
Language is the source of all expressions.
All great leaders have brought change in society by influencing people/followers
through their powerful words. The right language can bring forth endless
possibilities and potential in your children. When your child faces failure,
use positive words to boost his/her morale and assure that he/she can do
better. Moreover, it is not always right to say ‘No’; turning your child’s
demands down with positive reinforcements is the key.
Respect
your child and he will respect you
Respect is not something that can be
taught; it comes from behaviour. It is something that you express to someone through
gestures or words. Respect your child if you wish him to respect you too.
Values that are imbibed since childhood stay in your heart and mind for life.
Being compassionate, helping others and understanding everyone’s needs are a
few good qualities you would wish your child to follow all the time. Therefore,
try to treat your child as a competent individual and watch him/her reciprocate
the respect in his/her behaviour.
Inculcate
beliefs that make sense
What we believe in is what we are. Our
beliefs are what shape our life in both good ways and bad. Often our beliefs
are the general norms followed in the society and they are sometimes
inefficient in the present times. When your child is against your belief or
ideas – rethink about it, maybe you really need to change them and move in
tandem with today’s times.
As a parent you want to give your child a
good start in life. With these positive parenting tips, you can nurture, guide
and protect them in a positive way.
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